Why do I always attract older men?

If you see it as harment, then that is exactly what it is. If you don't see it this way, then it's not. If he's married, then in my opinion it is. It's called the 80/20 rule. His wife is only giving him 80% of what he thinks he needs. So, he is looking for the other 20% in someone else. In this case, it's you. He is waiting for the first opportunity to take it to the next step with you. Personally, I think you're foolish if you open the door to this.